The first real week of 2017 is almost complete. Everyone is still wishing each other Happy New Year and the feeling of freshly made resolutions is still in the air. I don’t exactly have a list of resolutions because there are new things I decide to work on at random points throughout the year. At the end of last year, I was inspired to bring about a change in the way I deal with my emotions. This inspiration came from our visit to Al Bastakiya during our time in Dubai. The peace and serenity I felt in that space was like none other. There were intricate details on the buildings, yet the overall feeling inspired a different sort of appreciation for minimalism.
I thought it’d be interesting to use the minimalist approach that I do with my personal style and home decor towards managing emotions; the one thing all of us tend to overcomplicate.
With the endless minimalist style inspiration on our social media feeds, we’ve all probably tried our hands at decluttering our closets and homes. But what about our emotions? Personally, I will be making an effort to strip the complications out of my emotions. Who’s with me on trying something like this? Here are 3 things we can do to start with.
Keep the end goal in mind.
Don’t be quick to react to situations or conversations. Think about the end goal, and articulate your response or approach to the situation carefully. When your focus is on the end goal, your emotions are much clearer because you are less worried about the present. You will find a way to work past it and not let that complicate your emotions towards the final goal.
Emotional response should be: think harder before reacting, because what I do or say now may make the path to my end goal more difficult.
Don’t dwell on feelings.
So something bad or unexpected happened. Big deal, it’s a part of life. Once it happens, let it soak in completely and think about how you will be handling it. You may have to make some changes in your life. But once you’ve decided your action plan to move forward from there, make that your focus. Try to avoid dwelling on what happened, how it is making you feel, etc. This causes so much complication for your emotions and gets in the way of moving ahead with your plan.
Emotional response should be: too bad it happened, but let’s accept it and move forward.
Get better at expectation management.
As much as we say we don’t have expectations from people, we do. But the key is, to know the person you’re dealing with and alter your expectation to be realistic based on how they are, not based on how you think they should be. If you know a certain friend is not good at committing to plans, accept this and don’t be disappointed the next time you get a “Hey, I can’t make it anymore” text.
Emotional response should be: it’s okay, there’s no point in being upset because I was kind of expecting this anyways.
The architecture and tones of the buildings in Al Bastakiya did something to my soul. I’m looking forward to practicing this minimalism approach with my emotions and bring about lesser stress in my day to day life. I hope this inspires you to do the same, and encourages you to be inspired in different ways while traveling also. Happy 2017, guys!